The Good Kind of Dorky

 

Friday, June 29, 2007

Deep Thoughts on Vera Bradley and Paris Hilton

On Vera Bradley
I was shopping at a gift shop/boutique on my lunch break called Tweed where I have befriended one of the sales girls. Kimmy is probably in her early 20s at the most and her grandmother lives in the retirement community where I work. She mentioned the new Vera Bradley patterns that will come out later this summer. I asked if she had the vendor book because I would LOVE to get a sneak preview! She had it! She showed it to me! It made my week!

I know some of you aren't familiar with my one true love, Vera Bradley. If you don't have a Vera bag, you are missing out. You need one. I was so happy to see the new patterns. Sometimes it's hard to tell from the catalog whether or not I'll like the patterns in person, but a couple of them definitely had potential. Love.

On Paris Hilton
So, who saw the Paris Hilton interview on Larry King the other night? What did you think about it? While I thought she was being fairly sincere, there are definitely people who should not be given an hour interview slot. It was so boring listening to her say the same thing over and over again. A ten minute interview would have sufficed. I could have talked about my wedding plans for an hour and you would have gotten more out of it, let's just put it that way.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Is anyone out there?

Dear Internet,

I got back from my trip to NYC last night and tonight we went to Edgar's mom's house to help her with a couple of things. Then we went grocery shopping. It was getting late so I did a superfast shopping while Edgar waited in the car. I've pretty much been running around busy for the past week at work, traveling, and now getting back into the swing of things here. All of this has not left a lot of time for blogging. I've been trying to check in on you all when I get a free moment here and there, but I haven't had a nice chunk of time to sit and collect my thoughts and give you something worth reading. Instead of rambling, let me gather my thoughts and try to bring you something at least a little bit worthwhile tomorrow, perhaps. Are you okay with this? Are you even still reading me or have you given up?

Love,
Lindsey

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Maybe I'm not so gangsta after all

I really cannot tell you enough how much I appreciate your opinions and advice! Seriously, you guys rock! I'm kind of letting the money/dollar dance thing go for now and hopefully it won't come up again. If I HAVE to do it, I'll be a good sport about it (or at least try) because I suppose it isn't the end of the world, but at the same time I plan to stand my ground for the time being. I think if there is something else that Edgar really wants at the wedding that I don't want, I'll give in on whatever that may be so I don't have to ask for dolla bills ya'll. It's unreal how gangsta I am.

Speaking of gangsta, I am leaving Friday for NYC. Corona, Queens ain't ready for me. Actually I don't know if Edgar's aunt (who we are staying with) lives in Corona, but I think she is in Queens. Maybe she is in Jamaica, Queens like 50 cent (someone stop me from pronouncing that "fifty cent." Like I said, totally gangsta, or should I say gangster?)

Southside Jamiaca Queens __ ya heard me. Tell me you are with me on this one, people.

Anyway, I will be in NYC until Monday afternoon. We have the baptism for three of Edgar's relatives to attend. I would like to meet up with Sassypants, but I don't know when I will have free time...???

In other news, my SIL to be totally treated me like crap again and I totally just sat there...again. I swear I will speak up next time. It's just hard because I don't like conflict and I don't enjoy being bitchy. She, however, was in true bitchy form on Saturday night. We were all over at Edgar's mom's house for dinner. There were a bunch of us just hanging out, talking, etc. She wasn't being bitchy to me exclusively, but at this point she had already insulted our dog for not being pure bred like her dog (I know, right??? Who does that?) and the conversation had somehow turned to body size. Edgar's sister, has been trying to lose some weight. Our friend Danny said, "K*, you are looking really good." She said that she would like to lose 20 more pounds. Danny (who is Brazilian) jokingly made a comment about the white standard of beauty, etc. It wasn't insulting to me...it was very clear he was just joking. Then Danny said something about how I look really good and I said thank you. Apparently it's not okay for anyone to compliment me because SIL says, "Lindsey's too thin for my taste," in a really rude tone of voice. And did I say, you are too ugly for my taste? Or too bitchy? No, I sat there and said that I work out and I go by my body fat percentage and level of health instead of just shutting her up with a fiesty remark. Then she repeated that I'm too thin for her taste just in case everyone didn't hear the first time (Edgar and my MIL to be were not at the table at this point to stand up for me either). Then SIL says, "Well I guess the only people who have to be happy with how you look are you and Edgar." Okay, that pissed me off even more and I can't even exactly explain why. First, my goal of being in shape has nothing to do with Edgar. Edgar loved me when I was 35 pounds heavier. He will love me if I am 100 pounds heavier or lighter. Well not lighter, because I'd be dead, but you get my point. I know SIL's comment was total jealousy or insecurity or something, but I let her get under my skin again. UGH!

Thanks for listening to the nonsense that was today's post. I swear next time I talk about SIL I'll have a better story to tell. One where I come out on top.

Edited (already) to add: Dudes, I'm not even all that skinny! I would say thin or healthy maybe, but I have hips and some thighs, so let's face it, "skinny" is not a word to describe me. And SIL isn't even a large person!!! And if she were, who the f*** cares!?

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Are you sick of me yet?


Edgar and I were talking about the wedding last night. I was saying how there are a few things that I definitely do not want to do at our wedding, one being the dollar dance (or apron dance as they call it in the Polish tradition). Edgar wants to do the dollar dance. I do not. He thinks I'm taking too many traditions out of our wedding already, but I disagree. There are tons of "traditional" things we'll have in our wedding. My feeling also is that these days, anything goes! There are too many traditions to do them all anyway!

My feeling is that if people are traveling to come to our wedding to be with us and bringing a gift already, it's in poor taste to ask them to pay money to dance with the bride and groom. To be brutally honest, I think it's just plain tacky. I want the reception to be for us, but also for our guests. I don't want them to feel like they have to shell out more cash. I'd be happy to dance with everyone in the room for free!

My intent is not to take what Edgar wants away from him. I just don't feel comfortable with this "tradition." How do you guys feel about the dollar dance? Did you or would you have this at your wedding?

Edited to add: Sorry to be confusing. I'm half Polish, but I don't do anything that is traditionally Polish and neither does my mom, who is 100% Polish. Edgar is Dominican and the money dance is part of his culture. The only people from my family who might appreciate the dance are my moms' parents, who didn't raise her so they don't really have a lot of influence with things like this.

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Wedding Talk Per Usual and Updates

You asked for it. The Good Kind of Dorky is now no holds barred wedding talk. Once we have it more "put together" I'll share with you Edgar and my wedding website. Yes, we are that cool.

I cannot thank you guys enough for the wonderful advice you gave me. You all made me feel so much better. I saw SIL over the weekend and things were much better. She asked about where we were thinking of having the reception and I told her and we talked a little bit about the wedding, but I refrained from sharing too much. I pretty much said how classy and upscale our reception site is and that shut her up. My mom thinks I should say something to her at my reception about how much better it would be if there was a big grill, haha! I'm not going to because hopefully that will be the last thing on my mind, but you never know.

If I don't get fired between now and my wedding, I'll be shocked. It's so hard to concentrate at work these days. I am going to make a real effort to limit how much wedding stuff I do from work...no really...I'll be good. Tomorrow the catering director from our tentative reception site is faxing me a contract. It's so nerve racking because I have to put down a deposit, which means I can't change my mind. Maybe this wedding will cure me of my indecisiveness, but it could make it worse, you never know. Event planning is so much easier at work when I'm spending someone else's money!!! Here is one picture from inside the golf club, where we are having the reception, just to give you a sneak peek.
I can't wait. If the catering director gave away my date, I'll pretty much kill him. I'm just sayin.' Oh yeah! Did I tell you my date yet? I can't remember. 6/7/08 so hot right now.

This wedding has taken over my life. My mom and I have been looking at sooo many websites for cakes, flowers, dresses, etc. It's out of control. Rumor has it she bought me a wedding book over the weekend so a care package in my near future is totally possible. Also, my mother-in-law to be gave me my birthday present early (my birthday isn't until October). She knew that I would be stressing over all of the planning so she got me a gift certificate for an hour long massage. I can't wait to go because I've never had a massage before!

So those are pretty much my updates and ramblings for the time being. We are meeting with Father John a week from Wednesday (he had to cancel last week) to talk about the ceremony. I made sure that they would reserve the date for me. Game on.

Shout outs to Cece for sharing tons of her wedding photos with me and to Aimee for sending me the sweetest card.

Oh, oh, oh and Laurel has inspired me to run a 5K race. It's in October. Please don't let me wimp out you guys.

Paris is back in jail! Loves it!

Monday, June 04, 2007

On a slippery slope to assvice

You guys definitely had some great advice/opinions about leggings. It's amazing how strongly you feel about certain fashion trends. I LOVE hearing what you think!!

So I'm trying to limit my wedding talk. My 5 mintutes I gave myself for today turned into hours. Edgar and I are meeting with the director of catering at a golf club tomorrow night to see the site and see what they offer. I hope it turns out to be a place to consider. We looked at two places over the weekend--one of them we loved, but it is very, very $$$$ Too much $$$$$ I'm trying to keep some sort of budget. I want to have what I want and it WILL be nice and classy, but I also want to be realistic.

Can I just say that I hate competitive women who always think they have to one up other women. Edgar's sister-in-law is like that. Sometimes we get along really well and she is supportive and sweet, but then she will turn around and talk down to me and try to make herself sound like she's better and everything she has is better than what I have. I'm not jealous of her. I think she sounds insecure when she says shit to me, but it gets under my skin so badly. For example, when I told her I want to keep my wedding dress and accessories to no more than $1,000, she said, "My dress cost $5,000." I was telling her some of my ideas for my wedding last week and then all of a sudden last night she was using what I said to insult me or try to make herself sound and/or feel better. Like, I was telling her my estimated budget and her reply was, "Oh, I didn't have a budget. I don't even know what my wedding cost." It's like, why even say that? That's a shitty thing to say. I know she is just like that...it's pathetic, but it's how she is. Yesterday in reference to me being a budget, she said, "You could have your reception at my neighborhood's clubhouse. There is a playground and a big grill." Like, WTF? It pissed me off so badly and it was so insulting. I said budget, not backyard BBQ (not that there is anything wrong with that, but it was very obvious that that is not what I'm looking for) I just looked at her and I was like, "umm, I guess it's something to think about," because I didn't want to be rude. UGHHHH

Sorry to just vent about all of this, but it seriously makes me more upset than it should. I can't stand feeling like I have to be defensive all of the time and I hate feeling like someone is trying to tell me what I do or have is not good enough. My wedding is going to be classy and pretty and I'm going to do it how I want...I'm not going to go into debt just to try to be "better than her," because let's face it, I could spend a million dollars and she would still find something that "wasn't as good as what she did." I'm having this wedding to marry the man I love in front of my friends and family. I'm making choices based on what will make Edgar and me happy, not to try to be better than anyone else. In my heart, I know this. Maybe I should start talking back to sister-in-law...I do have a tendency to let some people walk all over me. My true friends are supportive of me and would never make me feel this way...

Can you tell how much she is bothering me?? UGH, I need to just find a way to let it go. I think I just need to grow some balls and talk back when she treats me like shit. Right?