The Good Kind of Dorky


Tuesday, August 21, 2007


I got back this afternoon from an out of town trip for work. It was just overnight, but it has kept me from getting to all of your blogs. I promise to visit you as soon as I can.

Now down to biznass. I'm sure you are just dying to know where I am in the wedding planning process. Don't fall off the edge of your seat.

I now present you with: My Wedding Check-List

Set the date...CHECK It is June 7, 2008 in case you were curious
Booked the reception site...CHECK
Booked the church...CHECK
Booked the photographer...CHECK
Booked the DJ...CHECK
Booked the "cake lady"...CHECK
Worked on wedding website...CHECK
Created a registry...CHECK*
Contacted a florist to get pricing...CHECK
Attended no less than two bridal shows with bridesmaid of the year...CHECK
Spent over $50 on bridal magazines...CHECK

* Over the weekend we went to Crate and Barrel to start a registry. The most awesome part is being able to change and add things online! I've also started a registry at two other stores and I did those two completely online. Edgar and I had so much fun with the bar code scanner thingy at C&B. This was definitely one of my favorite wedding activities to date!

My soon to be sister-in-law (yeah, the same one I sometimes have issues with) has offered to throw Edgar and me an engagement party. She has been really nice lately, so I hope it continues. She can be so kind when she wants to be. I think if she acts bitchy in the future, I'm just going to call her on it in a calm manner, but I digress. If you don't know, I love I mean LOVE Halloween. SIL and her husband, Edgar's brother, are going to throw us a Halloween engagement party!!! I am soooo excited! We met up at Barnes and Noble over the weekend to talk details so she could get a feel for what type of party I want. She came up with the Halloween theme and of course I said YES and insisted that it be costume required. I really want to be a corpse bride and Edgar the corpse groom. Look, you are currently at "The Good Kind of Dorky." What did you expect, people? Coolness?? Who even uses the word coolness anymore?? Apparently me. Enough said.

Anyway, the wedding planning is going well. My sister and maid of honor, Sara, is visiting next week so we can look at bridesmaid dresses. I can't wait! I'm still waiting to find out if the lady who does my mom's nails, friend's boss can get me the dress I want at cost. If not, I need to find an alternative. It'll all come together I'm sure. I think I've accomplished enough thus far. I am a planner by nature so I am totally in my element, even if I do have my moments of stress and frustration. The most stressful decision so far has been the photographer and the easiest and quickest was the DJ. Maya, please tell me I am doing well in terms of timeline!!

In other miscellaneous news, it has been very stormy in Virginia. Creepy stormy. This was taken on the back porch of my house tonight. It looks like a black and white photograph!


  • At 9:25 PM, Blogger Trish Ryan said…

    I just found your blog--congratulations on the wedding planning! Totally fun, totally stressful, totally worth it :)

    The best wedding registry advice no one ever mentions? Register for blankets. They're expensive, and you'll use them forever.

  • At 9:32 PM, Blogger L Sass said…

    With all the wedding season fever, I'm feeling slightly jealous! ACK. Poor AS.

    Are you getting married in VA or back home?

  • At 11:09 PM, Blogger janet said…

    I am not Maya, but I am going to say you are ahead of schedule! Sit back and relax sista!

  • At 1:20 AM, Anonymous Maya said…

    You are doing BRILLIANTLY. Here, I give you a 12 month checklist. Look how much stuff you've DONE. You ROCK! PS This now officially Longest Comment EvA!

    Twelve Months
    Announce your engagement to friends and family
    Arrange for engagement photo shoot
    Shop for engagement ring
    Determine your wedding style
    Hire a bridal consultant
    Select date and time for wedding
    Discuss size of guest list
    Begin compiling guest list
    Come up with a budget you can live with
    Decide who’s contributing to what financially
    Research and reserve your ceremony and reception location

    Nine to Eleven Months
    Attend any engagement parties
    Announce your engagement in newspaper
    Begin planning reception
    Research primary wedding vendors
    Send Save-the-Date cards
    Discuss who will officiate you wedding
    Discuss onsite catering if available
    Select bridal attendants
    Select groom’s attendants
    Begin shopping for your wedding gown
    Begin shopping for bridesmaid’s dresses
    Begin planning your reception
    Compile a list of all rentals needed…tent, tables, chairs, linens, china, cutlery
    Research catering options for reception
    Select a caterer
    Research and reserve a florist
    Research bands and DJs
    Book band or DJ
    Research and book a photographer
    Research and book a videographer
    Begin researching your honeymoon
    Six to Eight Months
    Begin discussions with your officiant
    Begin any required pre-marital counseling
    Discuss wedding vows
    Order your bridal gown (confirm deliver date)
    Order headpiece and other accessories
    Order bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories
    Research invitation styles
    Finalize invitation wording (make sure to proofread)
    Decide on necessary invitation inserts
    Order invitations, inserts, announcements and thank you notes
    Reserve all rental equipment
    Decide on reception decorations
    Begin researching wedding cake designers
    Discuss wedding transportation needs
    Reserve wedding transportation
    Register for wedding gifts
    Keep careful record of all gifts received
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Finalize all honeymoon plans and make any deposits

    Four to Five Months
    Shop for wedding rings
    Complete guest list
    Plan ceremony decorations
    Finalize decisions for ceremony, including readings, vocals etc.
    Have the mothers coordinate and select their dresses
    Reserve men’s formal wear
    Pick up printed invitations (proof read again upon receipt)
    Address invitations and announcements
    Make or buy favors for guests
    Arrange for guest parking at ceremony and reception site
    Finalize menu
    Confirm all details with caterer
    Order cake
    Select flowers for the bridal party
    Select flowers for the ceremony
    Select flowers for the reception
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Get blood test and marriage license
    Decide where you will live after the wedding
    Discuss whether or not to have a prenuptial agreement
    Plan rehearsal dinner
    Research passport and visa requirements
    Shop for any honeymoon clothes
    Obtain all passport and visa requirements

    Three Months
    Coordinate accommodations for out-of-town guests
    Review ceremony with officiant
    Select ceremony music
    If using personalized wedding vows, begin writing them now
    Schedule first bridal gown fitting
    Schedule first bridesmaids gown fitting
    Shop for bridal lingerie
    Experiment with make-up and hairstyles
    Make all hair, nail, and make-up appointments
    Make sure attire for flower girl or ring bearer has been ordered
    Discuss reception traditions you plan on using
    Order place cards, table numbers and menu cards for the reception
    Consider taking dancing lessons if needed
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Finalize plans for wedding rehearsal
    Finalize plans for rehearsal dinner

    Two Months
    Pick up wedding rings
    Finalize wedding details with officiant
    Finalize ceremony music
    Select responsible person to handle guest book
    Schedule dress fitting
    Put together directions and accommodation cards for out-of-town guests
    Mail invitations
    Design and print wedding programs, if using
    Confirm final reception details
    Have all accessories, toasting goblets, ring pillow, garter, candles, etc.
    Give head count to caterer and review details
    Confirm final details with florist
    Confirm all details with musicians
    Finalize music selections
    Confirm final details with photographer
    Confirm details with videographer
    Write thank you note immediately
    Plan bridesmaids party
    Draw up any prenuptial agreement
    Make rehearsal arrangements
    One Month

    Buy thank you gifts for attendants
    Final dress fitting
    Begin breaking in bridal footwear
    Designate someone to mail announcements
    Give all musicians the list of music to be played
    Have a formal bridal portrait taken
    Give photographer a list of pictures you want
    Give videographer a list of desired shots
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Host bridesmaids’ party
    Complete all physical and dental appointments
    Get blood test and marriage license
    Get necessary forms to change your name

    Two Weeks

    Contact guests who have not responded
    Confirm that all vendors received necessary payments
    Prepare any wedding toast
    Plan the seating arrangements for the reception
    Arrange for someone to be in charge of gifts brought to the reception
    Confirm guest count
    Confirm delivery arrangements with baker
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Attend the bachelor / bachelorette party
    Write detailed minute-by-minute wedding day schedule

    One Week
    Go over special seating arrangements with ushers
    Pick up wedding gown
    Pick up bridesmaids dresses
    Pick up grooms attire
    Make sure you have all wedding attire and it fits
    Distribute transportation provider a schedule (with address) for wedding day
    Write thank you notes immediately
    Arrange for gifts brought to the reception to be taken to your new home
    Make sure you have your marriage license
    Hand out wedding day schedule
    Have wedding rehearsal
    Have rehearsal dinner
    Reconfirm all honeymoon reservations
    Make sure you have plane tickets
    Pack your suitcase

    Day of Wedding
    Eat something – you have a big day ahead
    Groom should make sure he has the wedding rings and the officiant’s fees
    Fix hair at least 3 hours before ceremony
    Make sure nails are done
    Allow plenty of time to apply make-up
    Have all accessories together
    Start dressing about one and a half hours before ceremony
    Get to the ceremony location on time
    Make sure luggage is in the car or the hotel you’re staying in the first night
    Give best man and maid of honor the rings
    Give officiants’ fee to best man
    Don’t forget to take the marriage license to the ceremony
    Have best man and maid of honor sign certificate as witnesses

    After Wedding
    Mail announcements
    Send wedding picture and announcement to newspaper
    Write thank you note immediately
    A wedding breakfast or brunch

  • At 1:22 AM, Anonymous Maya said…

    Also? Registering this early = lots of stuff you register for won't be available when they go to buy presents for you. Just a thought. Hugs!

  • At 1:49 AM, Anonymous alyndabear said…

    Damn.. you are one organised bride to be. Go Linds!

  • At 12:17 PM, Blogger Chiada said… Maya's comment left me a bit woozy. And I'm not even getting married!

    Linds, they you for posting! Hey, it might just be wedding details, and I might not have fallen off my seat, but it's good to get an update. I've been checking your blog everyday for a new post. Hip hip hooray for new posts!

    When are you going to show us a picture of the real dress you chose?

  • At 12:17 PM, Blogger Chiada said…

    Er, that should be "thank you", not "they you". I swear I typed "thank you".

  • At 12:23 PM, Anonymous audrey said…

    I love that your wedding date is 06/07/08. So easy to remember!

    And your engagement party sounds like SO MUCH FUN. Way cooler than the standard, hoity-toity formal luncheon or whatever it is most people do. If I were in Virginia, I would definitely be begging for an invite. I hope we'll get to see pictures!

  • At 9:08 PM, Blogger Angela said…

    Dude, your engagement party sounds like such coolness.

  • At 9:50 PM, Blogger The "Mind" said…

    Rock on girl, just look at you go!

    Keep up the wedding posts...I'm living vicariously through you.

    And I would do something so weird as to get married ON Halloween IN costume. *giggles*

  • At 8:19 AM, Anonymous cady said…

    your engagement party sounds so cool! joe loved registering...he had SO MUCH FUN playing with the gun. heeh.

  • At 11:56 AM, Blogger Carrie said…

    Damn. I haven't even set a date. You want to plan my wedding?

  • At 1:27 PM, Blogger *~*Cece*~* said…

    OMG your party sounds awesome! I wanna go!!!!!!! hehehe

  • At 6:11 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    ugghhh are you for real girl??? i don't know how i stumbled upon your blog but now i know why our world has gone to shit, thanks so superficial bimbos like you :)

  • At 12:18 AM, Anonymous Maya said…

    Wow! Sounds like anonymous has a case of the trollies....Notice the rude people are always anon?

  • At 1:22 PM, Blogger *~*Cece*~* said…


  • At 5:29 PM, Anonymous Erin said…

    I totally love the Halloween engagement party idea! I'm completely into Halloween (this mostly started because it's my birthday, but I think I would love it anyway). I can't wait to see pictures! :)

  • At 7:17 AM, Blogger notanlines said…

    you are wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay ahead !!!!

    I just got married in June and i remember the last three weeks is when most of the planning took place with the planner and all ...

    it was difficult to work on details of the wedding before that because you never know what might come up ...

    Most important is location, band, and photographers to be booked ahead of time ... i did this with my wife a 3 months before the wedding ...

  • At 4:30 PM, Blogger Julie said…

    Holy Crap.

    You're so good with that list.
    And yes, you should be assertive if your soon to be SIL turns into a you know what again.

  • At 9:32 PM, Blogger Nap Queen said…

    I had my registry with C&B, too, and it was awesome. They were great about all the returns and exchanges, plus all their stuff is super cute!

    I LOVE creepy storms, clouds and thunder. That's a cool photo.


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