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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

I've Been Robbed

I was in desperate need of a hair-cut. I mean desperate. I have been a tad dissatisfied with my stylist lately and going back and forth about whether to break up with her or not. I decided it was probably time to call it quits. The technique I chose was the "no call back" technique because that is a perfectly acceptable way to dump someone in, like, the eighth grade. Trust me, I've tested it.

I made an appointment with a stylist who had been recommended to me by my ex-boss. He (the stylist) is wonderful and gay and talkative and loves Project Runway. We bonded. And he knows what he is doing when it comes to cutting hair. The time just slipped by and we spent almost an hour and a half together because his next appointment never showed up. He is everything I could ask for in a stylist!

When I looked up the salon's website prior to making an appointment, it said that a woman's hair-cut was $35+ depending on the skills and experience of the stylist, so I'm thinking $40-$45. Maybe a wee bit more than I normally pay, but only by a few dollars. In a true moment of weakness, I decided to splurge on a $20 bottle of hair spray because I usually don't spend much on styling products. My bill came to $84 before tip!! $84!!! This was after convincing myself that it was absolutely necessary for me to get a hair-cut even though I am way broke, still need to buy a plane ticket home and have a handful of things left to purchase for Christmas gifts. Plus, I just sent in checks to pay a dental bill and a state/county personal property tax. WTF!! That haircut was 60 effing dollars! I've never spent that much for a cut alone!!! I feel cheated, robbed, empty on the inside. Okay, maybe it's not that bad.

But now I don't know what to do. I really like him. The thing is, I haven't actually decided if the haircut is spectacular or just above average. I think it will depend on how it looks when I style it myself. Also, I usually dye my hair out of a box for financial reasons, but he has an awesome idea for hair color for me. But I'm not so sure I am ready to know how much that would cost.

17 Comments:

  • At 11:04 PM, Anonymous audrey said…

    Holy expensive haircut batman!

    I think you may have to choose from having him style your hair and going on your honeymoon. And I don't think any professional dye job is better than a honeymoon. Maybe you can listen to his idea and then tell it to someone affordable.

    I do, however, fully support your "no call back" break up strategy. That's how I broke up with my last stylist. Worked like a charm.

     
  • At 11:28 PM, Blogger Julie said…

    Sometimes you just need to be forward when meeting a new hairdresser and say...I know what your website says, but what is it going to actually cost. I did that once and it saved me over 100 bucks (!!)

    Right now I love love love my stylist. She was recommended to me by a friend who goes to her because she is good and the price is right.

    I pay 85 for a color and a cut. And she is amazing.

    I think that you just need to learn from this lesson and not go back. Because if that is more than you are willing to spend on yourself, then you will NEVER like it. Even if it is the best cut you've ever gotten you won't be able to get past what you spent $$ and not enjoy it.

    Does that make sense?

     
  • At 2:08 AM, Blogger Aimee said…

    Wow! Yeah, I would definitely evaluate whether or not you got $60 worth of haircut or if it was just that you liked him and wanted to love the do.

    I had a stylist experience today. My regular stylist (read: I see a pro like once a year because I can cut my own hair - it's fairly simple and I'm usually not thrilled with color at the salon. I'm a nightmare and picky!) So anyway, I call her salon (a chain store) and she doesn't work there - BUT they actually gave me her cell number. She's working at a tiny salon and she still charges $35! AND she's a perfectionist so this is like an hour long hair cut. So you know, if you're ever in Sacramento - i know someone! :)

     
  • At 8:48 AM, Anonymous Erika said…

    I went through this last year. I got my hair cut at the day spa that I usually only go to with gift certificates. I stressed and struggled because we simply could not afford $60 haircuts plus tip (oh yes, I am right there with you).

    Everyone told me the same thing, which is my favorite piece of advice EVER: "Your hair is the only accessory you wear every day." It's worth it to feel good, so if you decide his cut is super spectacular, I say stick with it. I for one am willing to sacrifice other things (like professional eyebrow waxing...I KNOW!).

    I love the spa I go to, I love the drinks they offer you, the snacks, the head massage during the shampoo, but especially how comfortable I feel talking to my stylist about what works and what doesn't. They always sit you down first, with your hair dry and styled as you came in, to talk about what to do, before they ship you off for shampoo. Plus, I met Michelle in Target when we were both on maternity leave. I think your comfort level with the stylist also factors into your value consideration.

    With that said, I know she could do AMAZING things for me with hair color. She is an expert, everyone else in the salon is always asking her advice. But I simply cannot afford it and I won't even go down that road because I know I won't stop. It's easier for me to say that because I've never colored my hair except highlights for my wedding...so you don't miss what you don't have.

    I also spread out my visits as long as possible (8 weeks). I don't go back for another two and a half weeks and I am dying.

     
  • At 8:48 AM, Anonymous Erika said…

    I went through this last year. I got my hair cut at the day spa that I usually only go to with gift certificates. I stressed and struggled because we simply could not afford $60 haircuts plus tip (oh yes, I am right there with you).

    Everyone told me the same thing, which is my favorite piece of advice EVER: "Your hair is the only accessory you wear every day." It's worth it to feel good, so if you decide his cut is super spectacular, I say stick with it. I for one am willing to sacrifice other things (like professional eyebrow waxing...I KNOW!).

    I love the spa I go to, I love the drinks they offer you, the snacks, the head massage during the shampoo, but especially how comfortable I feel talking to my stylist about what works and what doesn't. They always sit you down first, with your hair dry and styled as you came in, to talk about what to do, before they ship you off for shampoo. Plus, I met Michelle in Target when we were both on maternity leave. I think your comfort level with the stylist also factors into your value consideration.

    With that said, I know she could do AMAZING things for me with hair color. She is an expert, everyone else in the salon is always asking her advice. But I simply cannot afford it and I won't even go down that road because I know I won't stop. It's easier for me to say that because I've never colored my hair except highlights for my wedding...so you don't miss what you don't have.

    I also spread out my visits as long as possible (8 weeks). I don't go back for another two and a half weeks and I am dying.

     
  • At 8:49 AM, Anonymous Erika said…

    WHY DID THAT POST TWICE BLOGGER? I HATE YOU, WORD VERIFICATION!

     
  • At 9:03 AM, Blogger Making my way in PA said…

    $60. Before tip. WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?

    I think I would have burst into tears when they said the total. I have never formed a hair cutting allegience with anyone. I pick a salon, go there and have them wack away. And I don't like to pay more than $30 plus tip. I guess my strategy is at least if I hate the cut I won't be broke.

    Not the best strategy, but I have only had one bad haircut and it wasn't really bad, just way shorter than I wanted.

     
  • At 9:43 AM, Anonymous Operation Pink Herring said…

    I got robbed on my last haircut too. I was desperate and broke, so I went to a new $11 place that just opened up by me. I used to go to their other branch during college, and they were nothing special, but not bad either for $11.

    So I get my $11 haircut, and the chick asks if I want it blow-dried. Since the day I get my hair cut is pretty much the ONLY day my hair looks good, I said YES PLEASE, even though I realized if she's asking, it's going to be extra. Whatever. How much can they charge for a blowdry, right?

    My bill was $60. She billed me for a "styling lesson", and while she did spend a ton of time styling my hair, my hair does not need hairspray and flat irons and curling irons and more hairspray. I let her do what she wanted because I figured she was just bored (the place was empty, it was a holiday), and i was PISSED. I really felt violated. Robbed!

    I will probably go back there because they are super cheap and convenient. I will just not allow them to do anything but the $11 cut next time! I've learned me lesson, and sounds like you have too. Next time we will both be up front and not get ripped off! (high five!)

    I had to give up color altogether. I miss my highlights, but I don't miss the maintenance or the money they cost. Nor do I miss the skunk look I rocked when I let them grow up for months with no touchups because I am cheap and lazy.

     
  • At 11:19 AM, Blogger Sue said…

    It $60 for a cut, low and high-lights for me.

     
  • At 11:43 AM, Blogger Carrie said…

    And that is exactly why my hair grows and grows. It is either pay the big bucks or go to the evil sister-in-law that secretly hates me but loves Adam.

     
  • At 12:35 PM, Blogger Chiada said…

    I think I would have politely/sweetly asked him about the price difference. Like, "oh, I noticed on your website that haircuts are $35. What's the difference for?" or something like that.

    After years of being ripped off here and there, I've learned to speak up. But I KNOW! it's not as easy as it sounds.

    I used to pay upwards of $80 for a cut and highlight. Back in the days when I lived in Santa Barbara and everybody walked around with a head of gorgeous hair. Now that I live in a "frumpy" ag town (no, we're really not that bad), and the fact that I've decided to go au natural with my color and grow it long, I only pay $35 for a cut that I am very happy with. Yay for long natural hair! (Though I do sometimes miss my cute flippy stylish short cuts.)

     
  • At 12:39 PM, Blogger L Sass said…

    I hate New York. $60 would be a cheap haircut for me and IT IS NOT WORTH IT. I get my hair cut for $40 in Minnesota whenever I can.

     
  • At 1:45 PM, Blogger Marriage-101 said…

    This is why I only get haircuts once every six months. Fortunately, I have good hair and don't get split ends, but my style is lacking because of my thriftiness.

     
  • At 2:29 PM, Blogger Aimee said…

    As a random side note, one of the best cuts I got was when I went to a chain place ($12 cuts) and told the girl. Do what you want - just make it shoulder length. It was ADORABLE. But then she left and no one will tell you where they go. grrr

     
  • At 3:32 PM, Anonymous cady said…

    spending that much for a hair cut would make me cry. the only time i would do so would be if i really, *really* liked the stylist and the hair cut. so far, i haven't found a stylist here who i would pay that much to cut my hair.

     
  • At 5:21 PM, Blogger *~*Cece*~* said…

    I've been debating breaking up w/my hair cutting bitch myself. I'm WAY cheap and since my hair is curly & you can't really mess it up I don't pay more than $15 (and that's WITH a tip) for my hair cuts. It only lasts a few weeks & I end up pulling it back on top anyway, you know?

    I need to leave her b/c TWICE she cut it too short and now I'm in the horrible grow out period. Ugh. No call back is the way I'm going. But the thought of paying $25+ for a cut kills me. Did I mention I'm cheap?

     
  • At 2:19 PM, Blogger -R- said…

    Was the guy you went to one of the more experienced people at his salon? My mom's hairstylist is the owner of his salon, so when I was in my hometown and needed a haircut, I asked him if there was someone with less experience (AKA less $) that he would recommend because, to be honest, I couldn't afford him. So he gave me an awesome recommendation. So my suggestion is to call the guy, tell him you love him, and then ask him to recommend someone cheaper.

     

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